High Conflict People in Legal Disputes

High Conflict People in Legal Disputes
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Author: Bill Eddy
Pages: 272
ISBN: 9781936268009
Release: 2012-03
Editor: Unhooked Books

DESCRIPTION OF THE BOOK:

An easy and practical book for legal professionals or anyone else disputing with someone with a high-conflict personality.

Biff

Biff
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Author: Bill Eddy
Pages: 158
ISBN: 9781936268351
Release: 2011-05-01
Editor: Unhooked Books

DESCRIPTION OF THE BOOK:

This little book gives more than 20 examples of BIFF responses--brief, informative, friendly, and firm--for all areas of life, plus additional tips to help readers deal with high-conflict people anywhere. 158 pp.

5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life

5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life
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Author: Bill Eddy
Pages: 208
ISBN: 9781524705091
Release: 2018-02-06
Editor: Penguin

DESCRIPTION OF THE BOOK:

Some difficult people aren’t just hard to deal with—they’re dangerous. Do you know someone whose moods swing wildly? Do they act unreasonably suspicious or antagonistic? Do they blame others for their own problems? When a high-conflict person has one of five common personality disorders—borderline, narcissistic, paranoid, antisocial, or histrionic—they can lash out in risky extremes of emotion and aggression. And once an HCP decides to target you, they’re hard to shake. But there are ways to protect yourself. Using empathy-driven conflict management techniques, Bill Eddy, a lawyer and therapist with extensive mediation experience, will teach you to: - Spot warning signs of the five high-conflict personalities in others and in yourself. - Manage relationships with HCPs at work and in your private life. - Safely avoid or end dangerous and stressful interactions with HCPs. Filled with expert advice and real-life anecdotes, 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life is an essential guide to helping you escape negative relationships, build healthy connections, and safeguard your reputation and personal life in the process. And if you have a high-conflict personality, this book will help you help yourself.

The High Conflict Couple

The High Conflict Couple
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Author: Alan Fruzzetti
Pages: 192
ISBN: 1608824268
Release: 2006-12-03
Editor: New Harbinger Publications

DESCRIPTION OF THE BOOK:

You hear and read a lot about ways to improve your relationship. But if you've tried these without much success, you're not alone. Many highly reactive couples—pairs that are quick to argue, anger, and blame—need more than just the run-of-the-mill relationship advice to solve their problems in love. When destructive emotions are at the heart of problems in your relationship, no amount of effective communication or intimacy building will fix what ails it. If you're part of a "high-conflict" couple, you need to get control of your emotions first, to stop making things worse, and only then work on building a better relationship. The High-Conflict Couple adapts the powerful techniques of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) into skills you can use to tame out-of-control emotions that flare up in your relationship. Using mindfulness and distress tolerance techniques, you'll learn how to deescalate angry situations before they have a chance to explode into destructive fights. Other approaches will help you disclose your fears, longings, and other vulnerabilities to your partner and validate his or her experiences in return. You'll discover ways to manage problems with negotiation, not conflict, and to find true acceptance and closeness with the person you love the most.

Managing High Conflict People in Court

Managing High Conflict People in Court
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Author: Bill Eddy
Pages: 60
ISBN: 9781936268016
Release: 2008-05-01
Editor: Unhooked Books

DESCRIPTION OF THE BOOK:

This book is designed for judicial officers to use in managing people with high conflict personalities in any courtroom, with an emphasis on family court litigants. This easy-to-read booklet provides judicial officers with accurate and authoritative information about the subject matters covered. It describes general principles and suggestions for judicial officers to immediately put into practice.

It s All Your Fault at Work

It s All Your Fault at Work
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Author: Bill Eddy,L. Georgi DiStefano
Pages: 244
ISBN: 1936268663
Release: 2015-02
Editor: Unhooked Books

DESCRIPTION OF THE BOOK:

A four-step method for handling the increasingly-outrageous behavior of narcissists and high-conflict people at work: customers, employees, managers and business-owners.

The Smartest Kids in the World

The Smartest Kids in the World
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Author: Amanda Ripley
Pages: 320
ISBN: 9781451654448
Release: 2013-08-13
Editor: Simon and Schuster

DESCRIPTION OF THE BOOK:

How do other countries create “smarter” kids? What is it like to be a child in the world’s new education superpowers? The Smartest Kids in the World “gets well beneath the glossy surfaces of these foreign cultures and manages to make our own culture look newly strange....The question is whether the startling perspective provided by this masterly book can also generate the will to make changes” (The New York Times Book Review). In a handful of nations, virtually all children are learning to make complex arguments and solve problems they’ve never seen before. They are learning to think, in other words, and to thrive in the modern economy. Inspired to find answers for our own children, author and Time magazine journalist Amanda Ripley follows three Americans embed­ded in these countries for one year. Kim, fifteen, raises $10,000 so she can move from Oklahoma to Finland; Eric, eighteen, trades his high-achieving Minnesota suburb for a booming city in South Korea; and Tom, seventeen, leaves a historic Pennsylvania village for Poland. Through these young informants, Ripley meets battle-scarred reformers, sleep-deprived zombie students, and a teacher who earns $4 million a year. Their stories, along with groundbreaking research into learning in other cultures, reveal a pattern of startling transformation: none of these countries had many “smart” kids a few decades ago. Things had changed. Teaching had become more rigorous; parents had focused on things that mattered; and children had bought into the promise of education.

The High Conflict Custody Battle

The High Conflict Custody Battle
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Author: Amy J. L. Baker,J. Michael Bone,Brian Ludmer
Pages: 232
ISBN: 9781626250758
Release: 2014-11-01
Editor: New Harbinger Publications

DESCRIPTION OF THE BOOK:

Is your ex-spouse trying to gain custody of your kids? Has he or she launched a campaign to make you look like a bad parent, both in the eyes of your children and the law? You aren’t alone. Unfortunately, high-conflict custody battles are all-too-common in today’s world. So how can you arm yourself with the mental and legal resources needed to survive this difficult time and keep your kids safe? In The High-Conflict Custody Battle, a team of legal and psychology experts present a practical guidebook for people like you who are engaged in a high-conflict custody battle. If you are dealing with an overtly hostile, inflammatory, deceitful, or manipulative ex-spouse, you will learn how to find and work with an attorney and prepare for a custody evaluation. The book also provides helpful tips you can use to defend yourself against false accusations, and gives a realistic portrayal of what to expect during a legal fight. Going through a divorce is hard, but going through a custody battle can feel like war. Don’t go in unprepared. With this book as your guide, you will be able to navigate this difficult process and learn powerful skills that will help you maintain a healthy relationship with your kids, fight unfair accusations, and uphold your rights as a parent.

The Unthinkable

The Unthinkable
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Author: Amanda Ripley
Pages: 288
ISBN: 9780307449276
Release: 2008-06-10
Editor: Harmony

DESCRIPTION OF THE BOOK:

Discover how human beings react to danger—and what makes the difference between life and death “Fascinating and useful . . . [shows that] the most important variable in an emergency is your own behavior.”—The New York Times Today, nine out of ten Americans live in places at significant risk of earthquakes, hurricanes, tornadoes, terrorism, or other disasters. Tomorrow, some of us will have to make split-second choices to save ourselves and our families. How will we react? What will it feel like? Will we be heroes or victims? In her quest to answer these questions, award-winning journalist Amanda Ripley traces human responses to some of recent history’s epic disasters, from the explosion of the Mont Blanc munitions ship in 1917–one of the biggest explosions before the invention of the atomic bomb–to the journeys of the 15,000 people who found their way out of the World Trade Center on September 11, 2001. To understand the science behind the stories, Ripley turns to leading brain scientists, trauma psychologists, and other disaster experts. She even has her own brain examined by military researchers and experiences, through realistic simulations, what it might be like to survive a plane crash into the ocean or to escape a raging fire. Ripley comes back with precious wisdom about the surprising humanity of crowds, the elegance of the brain’s fear circuits, and the stunning inadequacy of many of our evolutionary responses. Most unexpectedly, she discovers the brain’s ability to do much, much better–with just a little help.

High Conflict Parenting Post Separation

High Conflict Parenting Post Separation
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Author: Eia Asen,Emma Morris
Pages: 156
ISBN: 9780429889301
Release: 2020-03-12
Editor: Routledge

DESCRIPTION OF THE BOOK:

High-Conflict Parenting Post-Separation: The Making and Breaking of Family Ties describes an innovative approach for families where children are caught up in their parents’ acrimonious relationship - before, during and after formal legal proceedings have been initiated and concluded. This first book in a brand-new series by researchers and clinicians at the Anna Freud National Centre for Children and Families (AFNCCF) outlines a model of therapeutic work which involves children, their parents and the wider family and social network. The aim is to protect children from conflict between their parents and thus enable them to have healthy relationships across both ‘sides’ of their family network. High-Conflict Parenting Post-Separation is written for professionals who work with high-conflict families – be that psychologists, psychiatrists, child and adult psychotherapists, family therapists, social workers, children’s guardians and legal professionals including solicitors and mediators, as well as students and trainees in all these different disciplines. The book should also be of considerable interest for parents who struggle with post-separation issues that involve their children.

High Conflict

High Conflict
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Author: Amanda Ripley
Pages: 368
ISBN: 9781982128586
Release: 2021-04-06
Editor: Simon and Schuster

DESCRIPTION OF THE BOOK:

When we are baffled by the insanity of the “other side”—in our politics, at work, or at home—it’s because we aren’t seeing how the conflict itself has taken over. That’s what “high conflict” does. It’s the invisible hand of our time. And it’s different from the useful friction of healthy conflict. That’s good conflict, and it’s a necessary force that pushes us to be better people. High conflict, by contrast, is what happens when discord distills into a good-versus-evil kind of feud, the kind with an us and a them. In this state, the normal rules of engagement no longer apply. The brain behaves differently. We feel increasingly certain of our own superiority and, at the same time, more and more mystified by the other side. New York Times bestselling author and award-winning journalist Amanda Ripley investigates how good people get captured by high conflict—and how they break free. Our journey begins in California, where a world-renowned conflict expert struggles to extract himself from a political feud. Then we meet a Chicago gang leader who dedicates his life to a vendetta—only to find himself working beside the man who killed his childhood idol. Next, we travel to Colombia, to find out whether thousands of people can be nudged out of high conflict at scale. Finally, we return to America to see what happens when a group of liberal Manhattan Jews and conservative Michigan corrections officers choose to stay in each other’s homes in order to understand one another better. All these people, in dramatically different situations, were drawn into high conflict by similar forces, including conflict entrepreneurs, humiliation, and false binaries. But ultimately, all of them found ways to transform high conflict into something good, something that made them better people. They rehumanized and recatego­rized their opponents, and they revived curiosity and wonder, even as they continued to fight for what they knew was right. People do escape high conflict. Individuals—even entire communities—can short-circuit the feedback loops of outrage and blame, if they want to. This is a mind-opening new way to think about conflict that will transform how we move through the world.

Group Therapy for High Conflict Divorce

Group Therapy for High Conflict Divorce
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Author: Margreet Visser,Justine van Lawick
Pages: 216
ISBN: 9780429657016
Release: 2021-03-31
Editor: Routledge

DESCRIPTION OF THE BOOK:

The "No Kids in the Middle" (Kinderen uit de Knel) intervention programme addresses high-conflict divorce through a multi-family approach. This first English language edition contains descriptions of the therapeutic sessions, references to a homework book (van der Est et al., in press) for parents and their network, along with extra information about the theoretical foundations of the programme. The book starts with theoretical foundations and a summary of the scientific research behind the methodology before moving on to focus on the methodology of the intervention programme per session, with detailed descriptions of each therapeutic session. Through these session descriptions, the authors demonstrate how the theory of the methodology can be put into practice within a group setting. The methodology is also conveyed in such a way that the key pillars and themes are clear, with a best-practice framework clearly demonstrated. Yet at the same time, the authors leave room for customization depending on the actual clients and therapists, and for this framework to be built upon further. With this programme now practiced and studied throughout Europe, Group Therapy for High-Conflict Divorce and it’s methodology will act as a living framework to help continuously improve practice and research among professional therapists, while also appealing to social workers and legal professionals.

Family Restructuring Therapy

Family Restructuring Therapy
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Author: Stephen Carter
Pages: 132
ISBN: 9781936268399
Release: 2011-09-01
Editor: Unhooked Books

DESCRIPTION OF THE BOOK:

Carter presents a "how to" manual for working with families in separation and divorce using an active, directive therapeutic process called Family Restructuring Therapy. This philosophy and effective process works well for the "normal" divorced family who need to learn new practices and patterns, and for the "high-conflict" family whose behavior patterns have become so maladaptive that the children's well-being is at risk.

So What s Your Proposal

So  What s Your Proposal
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Author: Bill Eddy
Pages: 157
ISBN: 1936268620
Release: 2014
Editor: Unhooked Books

DESCRIPTION OF THE BOOK:

An amazingly simple technique for getting high-conflict people to stop blaming others, and instead join in finding solutions to problems.

Defusing the High Conflict Divorce

Defusing the High Conflict Divorce
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Author: Bernard Gaulier,Judith Margerum,Jerome A. Price,James Windell
Pages: 249
ISBN: 1886230676
Release: 2006-11
Editor: Impact Publishers

DESCRIPTION OF THE BOOK:

DEFUSING THE HIGH-CONFLICT DIVORCE is a practical guide for therapists, attorneys, social workers, clergy, custody evaluators, and others who work with angry divorcing couples. The book offers a unique set of proven programs for quelling the hostility in high-conflict co-parenting couples, and "defusing" their prolonged, bitter and emotional struggles.

The Catalyst

The Catalyst
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Author: Jonah Berger
Pages: 288
ISBN: 9781982108656
Release: 2020-03-10
Editor: Simon and Schuster

DESCRIPTION OF THE BOOK:

“Jonah Berger is one of those rare thinkers who blends research-based insights with immensely practical guidance. I am grateful to be one of the many who have learned from this master teacher.” —Jim Collins, author Good to Great, coauthor Built to Last From the author of New York Times bestsellers Contagious and Invisible Influence comes a revolutionary approach to changing anyone’s mind. Everyone has something they want to change. Marketers want to change their customers’ minds and leaders want to change organizations. Start-ups want to change industries and nonprofits want to change the world. But change is hard. Often, we persuade and pressure and push, but nothing moves. Could there be a better way? This book takes a different approach. Successful change agents know it’s not about pushing harder, or providing more information, it’s about being a catalyst. Catalysts remove roadblocks and reduce the barriers to change. Instead of asking, “How could I change someone’s mind?” they ask a different question: “Why haven’t they changed already? What’s stopping them?” The Catalyst identifies the key barriers to change and how to mitigate them. You’ll learn how catalysts change minds in the toughest of situations: how hostage negotiators get people to come out with their hands up and how marketers get new products to catch on, how leaders transform organizational culture and how activists ignite social movements, how substance abuse counselors get addicts to realize they have a problem, and how political canvassers change deeply rooted political beliefs. This book is designed for anyone who wants to catalyze change. It provides a powerful way of thinking and a range of techniques that can lead to extraordinary results. Whether you’re trying to change one person, transform an organization, or shift the way an entire industry does business, this book will teach you how to become a catalyst.

Conflicted

Conflicted
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Author: Ian Leslie
Pages: 304
ISBN: 9780062878595
Release: 2021-02-23
Editor: HarperCollins

DESCRIPTION OF THE BOOK:

Drawing on advice from the world’s leading experts on conflict and communication—from relationship scientists to hostage negotiators to diplomats—Ian Leslie, a columnist for the New Statesman, shows us how to transform the heat of conflict, disagreement and argument into the light of insight, creativity and connection, in a book with vital lessons for the home, workplace, and public arena. For most people, conflict triggers a fight or flight response. Disagreeing productively is a hard skill for which neither evolution or society has equipped us. It’s a skill we urgently need to acquire; otherwise, our increasingly vociferous disagreements are destined to tear us apart. Productive disagreement is a way of thinking, perhaps the best one we have. It makes us smarter and more creative, and it can even bring us closer together. It’s critical to the success of any shared enterprise, from a marriage, to a business, to a democracy. Isn’t it time we gave more thought to how to do it well? In an increasingly polarized world, our only chance for coming together and moving forward is to learn from those who have mastered the art and science of disagreement. In this book, we’ll learn from experts who are highly skilled at getting the most out of highly charged encounters: interrogators, cops, divorce mediators, therapists, diplomats, psychologists. These professionals know how to get something valuable – information, insight, ideas—from the toughest, most antagonistic conversations. They are brilliant communicators: masters at shaping the conversation beneath the conversation. They know how to turn the heat of conflict into the light of creativity, connection, and insight. In this much-need book, Ian Leslie explores what happens to us when we argue, why disagreement makes us stressed, and why we get angry. He explains why we urgently need to transform the way we think about conflict and how having better disagreements can make us more successful. By drawing together the lessons he learns from different experts, he proposes a series of clear principles that we can all use to make our most difficult dialogues more productive—and our increasingly acrimonious world a better place.

Subtract

Subtract
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Author: Leidy Klotz
Pages: 304
ISBN: 9781250249937
Release: 2021-04-13
Editor: Flatiron Books

DESCRIPTION OF THE BOOK:

Blending evidence across science and design, Subtract: The Untapped Science of Less offers a revolution in problem-solving: proving why we overlook subtraction, and how we can access its true potential We pile on “to-dos” but don’t consider “stop-doings.” We create incentives for good behavior, but don’t get rid of obstacles to it. We collect new-and-improved ideas, but don’t prune the outdated ones. Every day, across challenges big and small, we neglect a basic way to make things better: we don’t subtract. Leidy Klotz’s pioneering research shows why. Whether we’re building Lego models or cities, grilled-cheese sandwiches or strategic plans, our minds tend to add before taking away. Even when we do think of it, subtraction can be harder to pull off because an array of biological, cultural, and economic forces push us towards more. But we have a choice—our blind spot need not go on taking its toll on our cities, our institutions, and our minds. By diagnosing our neglect of subtraction, we can treat it. Subtract will change how you change your world. In these pages you’ll meet subtracting exemplars: design geniuses, Nobel Prize-winners, rock-stars, and everyday heroes, who have subtracted to dismantle racism, advance knowledge, heal the planet, and even tell better jokes. These and more guiding lights show how we can revolutionize not just our day-to-day lives, but our collective legacy. A paradigm shift of a book, Subtract shows us how to find more of the options we’ve been missing—and empowers us to pursue them.

Coparenting Wellness Planner for High Conflict Cases

Coparenting Wellness Planner for High Conflict Cases
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Author: Megan Hunter,Andrea Larochelle
Pages: 174
ISBN: 1936268302
Release: 2019-05-28
Editor: Unhooked Books

DESCRIPTION OF THE BOOK:

Divorce is hard enough even in the best of circumstances. But what if your spouse is trying to turn the kids against you? What if your ex is hauling you into court over every little thing? What if you're being falsely accused of child abuse or domestic violence? Worst of all, what if you've been cut off from your children entirely? High-conflict divorce is just about the most devastating, soul-wrecking experience imaginable. The unrelenting chaos and pain can leave you exhausted and despairing. Legal fees can become a huge strain. And most importantly, there's the impact on your children, who may be grappling with anxiety, struggling at school, acting out, or turning to substances to cope. How can you keep it all together? In The High-Conflict Co-parenting Wellness Planner, high-conflict divorce experts Megan Hunter and Andrea LaRochelle offer hope and a wealth of advice. The healthier you are as a parent, the better you'll be able to help your children. Week by week, the authors guide you in taking care of yourself while navigating conflict. You'll learn practical strategies for handling the most common co-parenting scenarios. And you'll discover new ways to manage your own anger, worry, fear, stress, and grief. As hard as it may be to believe right now, it is possible to move beyond the conflict. You can overcome the alienation, regain your balance, and ultimately find freedom - from the overwhelming feelings, from the drama, and from your ex's hold on your life. This book shows you how.

The High Conflict Couple

The High Conflict Couple
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Author: Alan Fruzzetti
Pages: 192
ISBN: 1608824268
Release: 2006-12-03
Editor: New Harbinger Publications

DESCRIPTION OF THE BOOK:

You hear and read a lot about ways to improve your relationship. But if you've tried these without much success, you're not alone. Many highly reactive couples—pairs that are quick to argue, anger, and blame—need more than just the run-of-the-mill relationship advice to solve their problems in love. When destructive emotions are at the heart of problems in your relationship, no amount of effective communication or intimacy building will fix what ails it. If you're part of a "high-conflict" couple, you need to get control of your emotions first, to stop making things worse, and only then work on building a better relationship. The High-Conflict Couple adapts the powerful techniques of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) into skills you can use to tame out-of-control emotions that flare up in your relationship. Using mindfulness and distress tolerance techniques, you'll learn how to deescalate angry situations before they have a chance to explode into destructive fights. Other approaches will help you disclose your fears, longings, and other vulnerabilities to your partner and validate his or her experiences in return. You'll discover ways to manage problems with negotiation, not conflict, and to find true acceptance and closeness with the person you love the most.